Turning down the volume on the parlanchina (mind): 10 affirmations to find calm.

We all have it that inner voice that suddenly gets louder. The one that overthinks, worries, rushes, replays conversations, and won’t let the body rest.

For many women, this isn’t random. During perimenopause, hormonal shifts can make the nervous system more sensitive, the mind more reactive, and that voice in the head harder to quiet especially when sleep, digestion, and emotional resilience are already stretched.

At Pink Tomato, we lovingly call that voice “la parlanchina” (the inner voice). Not as an enemy, but as a signal a part of us that gets louder when the body is asking for more support, more softness, and less pressure.

This doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means your system is asking to be met with gentleness, not control.

That’s where affirmations come in. They aren’t about silencing la parlanchina or forcing positivity. They’re about lowering the volume, regulating the nervous system, and creating space between you and your thoughts especially during perimenopause.

Below are 10 affirmations you can return to when la parlanchina feels louder, to help you come back into your body and find calm.

10 Affirmations for When the Parlanchina Wants to Take Control

Use these when you feel mentally overstimulated, emotionally overwhelmed, or disconnected from your body.

1. Not everything deserves my energy right now.

2. I choose to listen to my body before the noise.

3. My breath brings me back to the present moment.

4. Not every thought needs a reaction.

5. I trust my own pace, not the urgency of my mind.

6. My calm is wiser than my haste.

7. I can observe my thoughts without believing them.

8. I don't need to solve everything today.

9. Inner silence is also an answer.

10. I can hold this moment with kindness.

Why these affirmations work?

Inner dialogue is often a response to stress, not an absolute truth. When your nervous system feels unsafe due to emotional overload, hormonal changes, digestive imbalance, or exhaustion the mind tries to regain control by thinking more.

Affirmations work because:

They interrupt repetitive thought loops.

They activate the parasympathetic nervous system.

They create distance between you and the thought.

They return authority from the mind to the body.

It's not about "positive thinking." It's about creating space.

Space to breathe.

Space to feel.

Space to choose calm.

How to Use Them in the Moment You Need Them Most

1. Name It Gently

When the chatter starts, simply say (internally):

“Oh, the parlanchina is here.” Naming it softens its grip.

2. Choose One Affirmation

You don’t need all ten. Choose the one that:

• Feels grounding

• Doesn’t feel forced

• Helps you slow down, not push through

3. Involve the Body

• Place one hand on your chest or belly

• Exhale longer than you inhale

• Repeat the affirmation three times

Example:“Not every thought needs a reaction.” Exhale… pause… exhale…

4. Make It Yours

Adapt the language to what feels natural:

• “I return to myself” → “I come back home”

• “I am safe” → “Nothing is chasing me right now”

Your body always knows what wording feels true.

A Pink Tomato Reminder 🍅

Inner chatter often shows up when:

• Digestion is inflamed

• Hormones are shifting

• The nervous system is overstimulated

That’s why calming the mind is also gut health, hormonal health, and emotional health.

Everything is connected.

With gentle pauses,

Gina Morano Helping you lower the volume – Pink Tomato Inside & Out